The joy of missing out (JOMO) is a controversial subject. Some argue that it’s simply flakiness shot out from laziness, and some say it’s self-protection. While both can be true, it’s important to understand that it’s not “one-size-fits-all.” Each situation is peculiar. JOMO is real and true, and I even bet it’s relatable. That moment when you get a last-minute call that an event has been canceled, and you somehow feel a great relief—that is JOMO right there. You might not know the amount of pressure you put yourself through until the joy arrives.

The accusations of flakiness begin to step in when your JOMO isn’t initiated by other parties but by you. Funny how being responsible for yourself when needed can…