A boundary is a type of border, but not necessarily a wall. A person with boundaries is not someone who has walled themselves inside a box, brick by brick, but rather someone who understands their needs and isn’t afraid to create the landscape of their life that best suits them.

In The Better Boundaries Workbook, psychotherapist Sharon Martin explains that “boundaries create a healthy separation between you and others and define who you are, so you can be yourself and make choices that are right for you.”

We shouldn’t be afraid to create boundaries but should embrace them as a method of self-protection and self-preservation that doesn’t need to be created at the expense of…